Hospo Voice

the dos and don’ts of workplace relationships in hospo

May 3, 2021

Hint: The team in Sweetbitter cover most of the don’ts

How to combine work and your workplace friendships

One of the best things about hospo is the workplace relationships you make. Having people you enjoy spending time with makes those crazy hours of service go heaps quicker. And when you’ve got a buddy to laugh with while you reset the tables at midnight, well it doesn’t feel much like work, does it?!

But while most hospo workplaces are great places to make friends or even something more (wink wink), you need to be wary. There are some dos and don’ts for many workplace relationships in hospo. Here are some of them.

Existing friendships

Your bestie from high school has recommended you for a job at the bar she works at. You get to hang out together all week. Yay! While it’s super fun working with your friends, there are some things to keep in mind.

Work friends

You’ve worked together for ages and while you wouldn’t hang out after work, you know everything that’s going on in the other’s life. Work friendships are one of the most common workplace relationships we form. Interestingly, these workplace friendships are more likely to develop when co-workers feel they’ve been mistreated by a bad boss. If you’ve got a new work friend, here’s what to keep in mind.

Starting a new relationship

So, you’ve got an eye on that lovely lady behind the coffee machine who is a whiz with the latte art? Starting a new relationship in any workplace can be risky. You don’t want to jeopardise your working relationship or create an awkward team environment (particularly if things go sour). Here are some things to consider.

Established relationships

A position has come up at your boyfriend’s work and you’ve jumped at it. It sounds awesome, right? Save on the commute by travelling in together and you get to spend extra time with each other. Working with your partner can be great, but it can also be… challenging. Here’s what you should consider.

People you don’t like/enemies/frenemies

There’s always someone at work who you just don’t gel with. Whether it’s your differing political opinions (you voted for WHO?!), the way they suck up to the boss or just because they think they’re a cut above everyone else. Regardless of your personal opinions, we need to keep our workplaces as harmonious as possible. Here are some things to remember.

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